We do know that there is only one thing we can control, ourselves, but it's rather hard to accept that we usually expect the others to do what we need. Of course, I also realise in this point but you know sometimes I'm out of control of these things.
Anyway, I've got some viewpoints from my life in a few days ago, and what I got is "expection" is a partner of "relationship". The more related, the more expected. When friends are just friends, whatever they do is not annoyed in our sight, though, when they become our closed friends, we start to make some condition to deal with them fortuitously. What we do might make both of us hurt more and more. Imagine to lover, how many conditon they both make to each other and how much pained they might get from what they do. I'm just a person as everyone so I admit that I sometimes also do what I say above. Even I tried to remind myself that "don't expect the thing you can't control", I still feel upset anyway.
The reason we do that is just a selfish thing, of course, I talk about myself as well, but in the meaning of selfishness, I believe that we're grasping something called happiness to fulfill our life. It's not wrong to wanna be a happy man but it's wrong to think in this way, refering to the first sentence, "there is only one thing we can control, ourselves". So, why do we make ourselves in trouble?
For someone I made an angry with, please don't be furious. As I said before, "the more related, the more expected", if I don't care you guys, I might feel nothing with you. :P
From now on, I wish I could improve myself in this point. I know I'm too stress because of some of my capability. The book I read once tell me that suffering is like a rock, if you feel so heavy, why don't just let it go? The old days I said "sorry, I knew that but it's a difficult thing in practical for me" but this time I gonna try to let it go, if everyone can do, why can't I la?
The birthday present for myself in this year is an idea to make me see what the truely happiness is. :)
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